Stella Shae Ruele
February 15, 1991 - October 24, 2024
Stella Shae Ruele, age 33, of Littleton, CO passed away Thursday, Oct. 24, 2024 after a long and courageous battle with a terminal illness.
Stella, pronouns she/her, was born Feb.15, 1991.
Stella touched those who knew and loved her by her honesty, courage, and above all else, her authenticity.
Some thoughts from those her knew her best:
”A beautiful woman.” “She made me feel seen.” “Real, funny, smart, protective.” “An old and beautiful soul.” “Fearless, compassionate, gentle, generous.” “Deep and wise.” “Beautiful inside and out.” “Someone I could always be myself with and seen for exactly who I was, and this was all she wanted in return of others.” “Unashamedly genuine, despite the many prejudices or challenges she faced.” “She bolstered acceptance and never demanded anything more than what you were in the moment.” “Showed me unconditional love and support in the darkest times of my life.” “Stella had a reality-based outlook on life, which reminded me that life was about appreciating not only the big things but also the small things such as a flower, raccoons and music.” “To love and be loved by Stella is the best blessing I’ve had and ever will have in this life.” “It breaks my heart to say goodbye but know she is in some place better.” “I’ll miss your laugh, your straightforwardness and how happy you made me the time I knew you.” “I hope that wherever you are, you never forget how loved you are.” “You will forever have a place in my heart.” “I know no one who fought more, you fought so hard.” “I can’t wait to meet you again as a bird or butterfly, you said you wanted to be the butterfly.” “You have inspired me and reminded me daily of what I will keep fighting for.” “You were caring, loving and compassionate.” “People who feel too much like you, are what make the world a better place for people like me.” “I’m honored and humbled by your presence in my life.” “One of a kind.” “Unique, with a higher perspective.” “Gave me unconditional acceptance.” “Beautiful, kind.” “Complex, misunderstood.” “In a superficial world, she was transparent.” “Stella’s light was too bright to be contained in her body.”
One of her doctor’s final messages, “I’ll miss you Stella. You are a beautiful soul. This world is too harsh for you. Rest easy. May this next life be easier.”
Stella was a certified sushi chef. She was also a devoted vegan, vegan cook and a fierce animal and human rights activist. She was passionate for LGBTQ rights and all marginalized humans in the world.
Stella wanted to be a tree, because she said they were fierce and demanded attention and that they were feminine and strong. Because of her environmental concerns, Stella had a water cremation and her Tree Tea was spread over the tree roots and property of a transitional housing nonprofit, Heart Mind Haven, which was started in response to Stella’s battle to find a safe and inclusive place of unconditional love and acceptance for the LGBTQ community.
Stella knew nearly every movie made and the casts, loved true crime, comedies and horror movies. Growing up she loved theatre and was a wonderful actor who could memorize entire scripts with one reading.
Stella found the person who stood out from the crowd by their heart and their struggles. Those are who she connected to. She was open about her battles in a broken mental health care system including the severe trauma for transgender individuals and access to critical care. This included the lack of quality treatment centers in Denver for severe eating disorders, including Eating Recovery Center and the trauma-induced care that was inflicted upon her. It was Stella’s last wish to let this be known.
Her story was one that her Mother told to provide key testimony to legislators which resulted in the enactment of new laws in Colorado in response to her experiences in our broken mental health care system. She pioneered change all the way through the end of her life with her Mom, Stepfather Damon, Aunt Linda and Greg ceaselessly marching alongside her in the harrowing battle.
There is a quote, “Don’t leave the world without having had made your mark on it.” Stella did just that. Her legacy will live on.
Stella had insight that surpassed this Earth’s understanding.
You are finally at peace, dear girl. You are not gone. You are finally free.
Stella is survived by her Mom, her Stepdad Damon, Dad and Stepmom, Grandma, Nana, four aunts, uncle, two cousins. She is also survived by her incredible friends and every soul whose life she profoundly touched. Stella’s wish was for everyone to be kinder humans and to love others for exactly who they are. So be kinder today. Remember Stella as you support that the right decision is always what the most loving decision is. This was her message for the world and for each of us.
Donations
In lieu of flowers, donations should be made to End of Life Options Colorado and make a note in memory of STELLA.
Stella’s Celebration of Life
Friday, December 13, 2024
4 pm
Retreat at Solterra
15250 W Evans Ave,
Lakewood, CO 80228
Stella’s Celebration of Life will be at The Retreat at Solterra.
